I will submit my opinion on this position.
First, I think that a belief in team, character, and heart enough to never waiver will absolutely lead kids into doing what is necesary to make themselves mentally and physically ready to play. To illustrate this point, did you as a player, do what was necessary to be successful because you were forced to do so? Or was it because you had the character and work ethic to do what you needed to in order to be the best teammate possible? For me it was so that I could pull my weight and take care of my business because I was sold by the program that my business would then in turn take care of the team. In the end, my character and models, dictated that it was the right thing to do.
Technique, however, is the responsibility of the coaches on the staff. That is why coaches are trained teachers. So they can TEACH kids what they need to do in order to be a success both n and off the field. In doing so, and monitoring the things that come with running a program you model the heart, character, discipline, and concept of team the kids can emulate and take the lead and they will. Speaking from experience, if kids see that you work for them so they can be better they will emulate the way you work. You will get out what you put in.
As for playing the daddies boys..... that is a matter of integrity on behalf of the coaching staff also. IF that is what (daddy ball) is what has led this particular program into the doldrums then the search for competent leadership is long overdue. Unfortunately, "selling the program" in this day and age has become a reality and is also the responsibility of the leadership of the program. Strong, appropriate community contact must be initiated and grown. Boundaries must be maintained. As a coach if things like these boundaries are not respected then it is a job not to take or not to keep if you plan on maintaining the integrity of the program. There are worse things than looking for a job, like not deserving to have one. Back to that modeling again, I would not sell my soul to keep any job. I owe it to my kids not to be a sell out.
IMO that is why programs in trouble are rarely made better by hiring an insider. Usually it is time for a new sheet of music. Time for a complete unknown, which is more than a little scary to administration.
Congrats to TC on the new Gold Ball. I also know from hard won experience accomplishments like that are never without a cost. I am very glad that your community and our nation has kids, and molders of young men(Coaches), with the heart, character, discipline, and belief in team to make victories such as these possible.
Again, I know nothing about this particular situation. For me the debate is purely philosophical. In the end this was all just one mans opinion.