Sorry. Don't buy it. By the way the girls played there is no way they are not complicit in this. The consequences to the girls is unfortunate but just. I have a daughter that plays ball. If I saw this going on with her team I would be extremely proud of her if she did NOT listen to her coach. It is the right thing. Even soldiers are not to obey illegal or immoral orders. And if she didn't do that I WOULD be at the bench giving the coach an earful and she would not be participating in the debacle. It is a sad state where a parent will knowingly allow their child to be a part of something that is clearly so wrong and not in their long term best interest. You say the coaches did not lie. But, I say it was ALL a big lie. The girls and coaches lied by not representing their talent appropriately, both to themselves and the fans, and the coaches seem to continue to lie about why they did this to try to save face.
I find it interesting that you quote the Bible about judging others and then you turn around and do just that saying the folks that are yelling about this are only doing it out of self interest. If you haven't noticed this has become a national story and the outrage is nearly universal except for a few blind Kool Aid drinkers who will tolerate and support bad behavior and say they are being loyal to their "family". I have no dog in this hunt. My daughter would never even meet any of the teams. However, I do feel strongly about teaching integrity and appropriate life skills through youth sports rather than a win at all costs mentality that seems to prevail in that world. By the way, I like to win as much as the next guy. But not at the expense of integrity.
Oh, and I do agree with you about forgiveness. However, the parties that did wrong need to repent and admit their wrong doing before that can happen.