I think a coach (a good coach) understands his/her players on an individual basis.
Some girls will get mad and give you 110% just to get back at you. Some girls will sulk and get upset and will continue to make errors on the field. You have to know which you're dealing with?
The one game that stands out in my mind, we were in a tied game, a runner at second, one out, a big hitter coming up after my daughter. I called for the bunt, she looked at me like I WANT TO HIT!!!! I again called for the bunt and got the same response! I Yelled at her from 3rd "YOU DO WHAT YOU WANT YOU KNOW MORE THAN ME,, HIT,,BUNT,,, SLAP,,, I DON'T CARE JUST GET ON BASE!!!!!
The next pitch she strolls into 3rd with a smile on her face, as if to say "I told you I wanted to hit!"
My response was "You did what I wanted,,, I said get on."
Some you push,,,, some you don't.