I have been following the message board, but generally do not comment. I saw this post last night and I was still angry so I chose not to respond until I had some cool down time. Although new to Tennesee, I have been or was a player, coach, referee or fan for many years. I think what my team and I experienced last night addresses all of the issues in the original post. What was on display was everything that is wrong with a youth athletic event, The fans behavior was reprehensible with insults flying towards me and my players for most of the nights. The thuggery, taunting, and obscenities that my players and I were forced to endure from the opposing players was despicable. My goalkeeper was kicked in the head while he was down covering a ball, there were three or four incidents where he came of his line to cover a ball and be on the receiving end of late two-footed slides. Studs up and two-footed slide tackles were common practice. Coming in late above the ball and from behind also was a common tactic. F****** P****** seemed to be the insult of choice directed towards my players. Finally, one of their players was yellow-carded for the name calling and shoving. Two of their other players received yellow cards for foul play. All of this in the second half when the game was out of control. We received our first cards of the year last night, two deserved, one not deserved. Early in the game one of my players received a yellow for foul langusge after an opponent came through the back of his legs. The other deserved yellow came in the final two minutes of the game when my player retaliated after the other team scored the tying goal on a goa. The goal should have been disallowed for another two footed slide on the goalkeeper who clearly had possession (our photographer got a great shot of this foul). The point of this rant is that neither one of my players who deserved yellow cards were happy to see me after their cards. Thet got chewed out pretty good and knew the consequences they would be facing after the game. The game ends in draw and as we are shaking hands the opposing player who was carded for language and shoving goes offf again with the favorite insult standing a few feet from me. I call the opposing coach's attention to his players behavior and he pulls the player away all the while two of his teamates are insisting he did not say anything. What happened after that is I called my team together, lined them up on a touchline and had them run 40 yard sprints until they were ready to drop. This was the consequence that they knew they would be facing after the game for the yellow cards. After several sprints I told them again the importane of keeping their composure at all times, no matter what the other team is doing. I reminded them agan they are representing themselves, their school, their families, and their communty. We are to win with class and lose with class. Whether the opposing players were disciplined or not I do not know. I did not see or hear them bing disciplined, while I was there.
I know this is long, but as to berating the referees. I was very frustrated with the officiating. I was concerned for my players' safety. As a teacher and a coach, their safety is my responsibility. I have not had that much trouble with referees this season. Last night was the second time this season referee over-reacted to something I said and behaved inappropriately. As a former referee, we have a lot of power and we must exercise it in an appropriate manner. At no point could my players and I be clear on what was a foul and what was not a foul. The players were clearly not being protected. Near the end of the first half (after my goalkeeper had been kicked in the head), one of my players won what appeared to me to be a fair tackle. My player turns towards me with is hands out at his side. My repsonse was "I don't know, looked like a fair tackle to me, with what has gone on I am not sure what is a foul and what is not. " The referree runs across the field to get in my face to tell me that if I said one more thing he would throw me out and knowing I was the only coach and school representative on the trip, he asked me which player would be in charge of my team after he threw me out. I had said very little to the referees before this event. Who berated who in this situation? Is this an appropriate exercise of a referees' authority? I realize as I reread this post that I am still angry. I told my wife this story when I arrived home last night. Her response was, "I wiish you didn't do this anymore" I have been involved with the game in some capacity for almost 40 years. For this very reason, I have seen many of my friends and colleagues with much to contribute walk away from the game. As much as I love the sport, at the end of the day it is only a game.