It sounds like from your post that the ref is out to get you guys. A ref shouldn't ref a game which involves his school where he is employed unless it is an emergency. I also must mention that your coaches are wrong if they intentionally coach you to stop a goal by a handball etc. Tactically, you go down a man and who knows? The keeper may save the goal or breakaway or pk. The player may choke and miss. To intentionally coach young players to commit what the law of soccer is serious foul play and a redcard offense, in my opinion is wrong. This is really stating to avoid an inevitable bad result--break the rules. If soccer and other sports teach that philosophy and it is true that participation in sports is to help build good moral character(as well as other traits including physical ones), then the lesson is being given--when facing a bad result break the rules. If you are going to flunk a test, then break the rules andcheat. If you are not getting enough back from tax returns, then break the rules and cheat by making up false deductions. I hope that referee wakes up or is reported enough times, that he will lose assignments- but consider the intentional foul play part. Pos do not intentionally get red cards to stop a goal that often. They are severely penalized off the field by their association for that. I hope you understand what I am saying. I hope your team will get great officiating and you will win more games this year.