The Ref,
I believe that as the level of competition increases and the maturity of the players increases, the spirit of the game should be given more and more weight. At the high school level, despite what the players want to think, thier maturity and level of competition is low enough that you should still call a very detailed style of play. Dot your I's and cross your T's. As you referee levels of competitions at a higher college level and various professional levels, the spirit is given more weight and you can expect the players to respond better. The fact is, in high school sports, if you allow a foul to one team, whether or not they keep possession or play is unaffected, they will interpret (incorrectly, but still the same), that this is acceptable by your terms.
Judgement calls should be at a very minimum at lower levels. There is a rule against jewelry that is strictly enforced at young ages, but is rarely enforced at professional levels. Why? Jewelry has no effect on balls skills and giving one team an unfair advantage. This is a very basic example of how the spirit of the game changes based on skill level and maturity, but it still holds truth.
"3 rekicks is a lot to take. First, Distraction is out because it is just as distracting to move legally side to side as it to move out. Second, missing the goal to the side or over the top is not affected by the keeper jumping off his line and there should be no retake (trifling offense by the keeper). Third, if the keeper jumps out off his line a gross amount more than once, it should probably be handled with more than a rekick."
That is a lot of opinions to be had on one play.
Do you tell each team before each game how many rekicks is a "lot"?
Do you tell each team before each game what you consider to be distracting? What about yelling? Coughing? Shaking hands around? Mean faces?
Do you tell each team before each game how jumping off the line will be handled? Rekick (unless it is over 3)? Yellow card?
If you do, then I think your fine, but if you don't there is too much ambiguity.