8Abball Posted February 8, 2016 Report Share Posted February 8, 2016 Different places handle this type of thing differently - especially based on prior experiences. Where have you been offered a job? It might help by you by getting some advice from someone in that area. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
burnalittle Posted February 8, 2016 Report Share Posted February 8, 2016 Different places handle this type of thing differently - especially based on prior experiences. Where have you been offered a job? It might help by you by getting some advice from someone in that area. He's already into his second season! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Not2Smart Posted February 8, 2016 Report Share Posted February 8, 2016 I am several years away from this issue, but I think the answer depends on each father/daughter combination. Here are the factors I plan on weighing. #1-You are parent first. If you think that being your daughters coach is going to put a strain on your relationship that will hurt it forever, then you don't need to coach her. If she blows a lay up that would have won you a game, will you be able to get into the car after the game and cry with her like a parent should? Or will you be upset that the player next to you choked? #2-How will the people around the program react? If you are going to coach her, how will you respond to people that say she plays only because she is the coach's kid? You have to be fair to her. Don't be too hard because she's your daughter. Don't be too easy because she's your daughter. #3-Do you have good assistants? You will need someone to be honest with you when you are in your blind spots. The assistants need to be able to give you an honest assessment of your daughter. #4-What does she want? If she is scared of playing for you, figure out why. Overall, I am very excited about potentially coaching my daughter. I think the big key for us is drawing good boundaries about where the coach/player relationship starts and the father/daughter ends. Good Luck. I've seen this play out for 40 years and cannot recall one example of a Coach regretting it. Plenty of examples out there right now to check out. Shulman (boys coach) at McCallie/ son MTSU football (son is QB) Closer to home and on the girls side: New Coach at E. Hamilton will be coaching his daughter or already is? Bradley Central's coach had his daughter a few years ago. Hamilton Heights coach is mother to her daughter on the team and another daughter coming next year supposedly from E Ham. I would encourage you to contact these and do some research. Good luck to you and your daughter. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RealisticFan45 Posted February 8, 2016 Report Share Posted February 8, 2016 I know many men that have coached their sons on the high school football team. If you are qualified and committed to doing what is best for the team without showing your child any favoritism, I see no problem. Agreed Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coachinhoops Posted February 8, 2016 Report Share Posted February 8, 2016 I have coached my daughter(s) for many years in AAU and middle school ball. My oldest daughter will be coming to play for me next season at the high school level. It is challenging at times but extremely rewarding. The best advice I can give you is this. You must have thick skin and be prepared to hear all kinds of stuff. Always make decisions based on what is best for the team. Hopefully your child will be good enough to leave no doubt of why she plays, but even then some people will still have their opinion. One thing, I know for sure...When your child plays for you, you won't ever be able to question how she is being used...LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SJF Posted February 14, 2016 Report Share Posted February 14, 2016 Lots of pluses and minuses! Just don't make them grow up to fast! Make sure the Coaching job you have is where you plan on being for many years its hard for a kid to transfer around alot! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
3AHAYDAY Posted February 14, 2016 Report Share Posted February 14, 2016 I have coached my daughter(s) for many years in AAU and middle school ball. My oldest daughter will be coming to play for me next season at the high school level. It is challenging at times but extremely rewarding. The best advice I can give you is this. You must have thick skin and be prepared to hear all kinds of stuff. Always make decisions based on what is best for the team. Hopefully your child will be good enough to leave no doubt of why she plays, but even then some people will still have their opinion. One thing, I know for sure...When your child plays for you, you won't ever be able to question how she is being used...LOLTerrible idea, they NEVER get treated the same as the other players. The car ride home after a loss is even worse. So no, IMO it's a bad idea. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bobcats83 Posted February 15, 2016 Report Share Posted February 15, 2016 Terrible idea, they NEVER get treated the same as the other players. The car ride home after a loss is even worse. So no, IMO it's a bad idea. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bobcats83 Posted February 15, 2016 Report Share Posted February 15, 2016 I coached both of my kids, son and daughter. Coaching stops at the gym. At home, in the car and everywhere else you are DAD, period. If you take their mistakes home you and especially them will hate it. Be Dad and only Dad after the game is over Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
3AHAYDAY Posted February 15, 2016 Report Share Posted February 15, 2016 I coached both of my kids, son and daughter. Coaching stops at the gym. At home, in the car and everywhere else you are DAD, period. If you take their mistakes home you and especially them will hate it. Be Dad and only Dad after the game is overWell said, but if your a passionate coach it can't be turned off at the gym. You know that. It's a season long process most years. Apparently you must be 1 of few who can do that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bobcats83 Posted February 16, 2016 Report Share Posted February 16, 2016 Even a passionate coach can turn it off. You have to be Dad at home. If you can't do that then you don't need to coach your kids Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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